>>10953097Your wives behavior is a direct reflection of your own actions. You need to help her understand that she won't have a roof over her head or a kid to love unless she does her job as a parent.
a firm grip on her neck followed by a brief, one way conversation stating exactly that should do. Don't leave marks and don't hurt her, but ensure there is no doubt in her mind as to your intent.
If she steps out of line again, grab your son and head to your folks while filing for divorce.