>>13339263This is true in some regards but I think it’s also a lot of excuse making and low t thinking. I was with my first love for two years and did all the bonding stuff and we had monogamous unprotected sex and all that. It was painful for a while knowing I’d never be that close to that person again, but then I remembered why we broke up and kept reminding myself of that. It helps you seek something better
The chemicals in your brain when it comes to bonding are kind of like the ones that make you nostalgic for times and things that weren’t as good as you remember. You’re just choosing to block out the bad parts to recall the intermittently “good” parts. We “bonded” because we were young, attracted to each other, horny, enjoyed watching movies and playing video games, having bareback sex and playing video games and watching movies while having bareback sex. That’s it. Everything else was horrible. She had no career prospects. She had BPD. And a host of other incongruencies that would never have worked. Don’t let your “idea” of the past taint the present.
