>>539542This, unironically. I used to volunteer at a sex workshop hosted by an old hippy couple.
Every single summer, without exception, I witnessed the old dude whisper a woman to orgasm without touching her.He'd sit her in a chair in the middle of the room, surrounded by people, mostly strangers, and without touching her he would talk to her and instruct her on how to breath, how to sit, what posture to take, what to feel, getting closer and closer and quieter and quieter as he moved in. After 15-20 minutes he'd be whispering in her ear while the chick flushed and sometimes trembled. Then he'd look into her eyes and say, "Cum" and she'd go into convulsions and have an orgasm. Some women had 10 second orgasms, some had 30+ second orgasms. One had a minute-long orgasm and looked like she'd pissed her pants afterwards, as this was all fully clothed.
Female arousal is 99% mental. That's why they can get off from weird shit like belly button play, the backs of their knees, having their necks nibbled, nipple play, etc.
If a girl is really mentally aroused by big dicks then fuck yeah big dicks are going to set her off. But even a big dick has to take care of a woman's emotions in a long-term situation. As most non-virgin men know, you have to keep a woman destressed and happy to get sex, otherwise she's not in the mood. Cooking, cleaning, taking her shopping, etc. There's no difference between a 4" dick and a 8" dick if you can't get her in the mood to begin with. But once you do get her in the mood, it size usually doesn't matter unless the girl has a straight up size fetish, because the process of getting her in the mood combined with the intimacy of sex is usually the pleasurable part of the exchange for women, not the actual act of fucking.
Try having sex WITHOUT penetration sometime. Pretend you're a lesbian and have 2-4 hours of slow, gentle, caressing sex. Your girl will adore it despite getting no dick at all.