>>17067905>i can't stop itYes you can, and you alone with your willpower can do it. No one else can help you unshackle yourself, not your friends, not your lovers, not your parents, only yourself.
>i wouldn't be so attached and Obsessed with him if he wasn't such a interesting and unique person for me.You're again clinging to him, you are consumed by your desire to be with him. But you will not find happiness whether your desire is fulfilled or not.
>but i already know what will happen next time he makes a thread.You're already setting yourself up to cling to him again, this is not the correct frame of mind.
You have to realize that everything in this world is impermanent, and if you keep clinging desperately to transient existences you will be eaten by your passions.
When circumstances are by your side you must not think "I am happy, i am satisfied with the object of my desires, i will dwell in this state of fulfillment forever, i wish this happiness could last eternally.", but you have to think "this state of fulfillment is fleeting as the clouds in the sky, i should not cling to it, i should not indulge in it and become deluded by transient happiness because grief and misery are always at the corner."
When the tides turn against you and you are at a loss you must not think "Woe is me, my favorite object/person has slipped away from my hands, i failed to accomplish something, i am lost and dejected". but "This anguish too is fleeting like my moments of happiness, i will not indulge in needless grief and learn from my mistakes, i will stand up and use what i learned to sympathize with those who experience my same losses, this will help them stand up on their own and encourage them to assume a right frame of mind."
Cessation of suffering is possible, but only if you're willing to put your mind to it.
