>>12197598You need to apply selection pressure. Let them know what you are looking for, see if they have good genetics and have the capability of change. Lay it on the line first and foremost that you won’t tolerate a man child and you won’t stay if they do. Don’t have sex at first, build the relationship off of mutual affection, love, and respect. Not even ‘everything but’ sex is earned not expected. Improve yourself and give mutual effort. If he loves you, he will change. Never compromise.