>>21080417human psychology is a matter of perspective. if what you see is not truth then what you hold within your mind is also not true. emotion is subordinate to will. your thoughts on a matter or feeling thereof can be waved aside once you realize it to be a fiction you have created.
matter presents fiction with which you interact at some level mentally. most of it being a fiction to which you hold onto perhaps as a desire for control over some situation over which in actuality you have none.
your do not have to struggle to make the stars shine. their nature is to shine.