>>8767699I'm not having any negative feels talking about this. I'm just trying to help out my friend.
Most of the time when people have background bad feels that won't go away it has to do with stuff from their past. Intrusive thoughts. So every time you get hit with a bad feel, just grab onto it and say "Why the fuck are you bugging me?" Analyze it. What is this intrusive thought trying to tell me? Why do I feel bad about it? What is the lesson it wants me to learn? Do I deal with any of the people involved in this memory on a daily basis anymore? Are they in my universe anymore? No? Then okay what is the lesson though it wants me to take from this? Don't do (x) anymore? Okay, I got the lesson now. Now fuck off, intrusive thought.
Is it something to do with the present? Is there anything I can do about it? No? Well okay, then just a status check. Am I hungry, thirst, in pain, in danger? No? Am I actively in peril because of this? No? Then fuck off, let me enjoy life.
Is it about the future? Well what do I want? Have I done everything I can do to help me towards that goal? Is that a good goal for me to have in the first place?
That kind of stuff. Every time you get hit with a bad feel, don't run from it, grab it by the throat and figure it out. Intrusive thoughts happen for a reason and if you don't figure out the reason, you just get hit with it again and again. It's like unopened mail on a desk that keeps piling up. Open up the mail and see if it is something important or just junk mail. Sort your shit out.
