>>10196111How do you do it? - We both go to the Orthodox Christian Church and practice it's marriage advice/pray together. We also agree to not yell or argue but to instead take breaks from each other when passions flare and then to talk about it gently. Also sometimes it's just better to take an L then to fight over seriously meaningless things.
Do you have kids? - Not yet but plan to.
How long married? - 6 years
What routines do you have in your relationship? - She works from home and I work 5 days outside. When I get home we meet at the door and hug eachother tight and she starts to cook dinner while I shower. Then we eat and talk for a bit before doing our own things for a few hours.
Every night we lay in bed for about an hour and either talk, watch youtube vids or stream a show and cuddle. We also take turns playing different games and either playing together or watching the other. Just seems like a nice way to share some good vibes.
Biggest thing OP is you both need to be open to realizing your own weaknesses. Mine was wrath (I'd get frustrated and hate to lose an argument) and hers was running away from problems without dealing with them. So we'd constantly have a cycle of I'd get mad at something and she'd lock herself away in a different room.
Fixed this by seriously working on controlling my snap reactions (gaining self control) and she worked on sitting down and working things out instead of being avoidant.
Lifes a struggle, work together and reap the rewards.
