>>17300307>Especially when it comes to one that's as simple to speak as English isi don't know about that, sure there are much more difficult languages like trying to go from an atonal to tonal ones but i think english is at least a little difficult because of all the memes surrounding the common shitty broken engrish of esls, memes sprout from truths and i think one of the truths is the difficulty that most non-native speakers have with learning proper english, maybe some people dont put in effort to learn or maybe theyre just really retarded but whatever the reasons in general i think if you can do something that a majority of the people who try can't do that makes you at least "good"
>It also feels big-headed whenever I think of saying that I'm good at anythingi know the feeling, i kinda do the same, i was statistically top 0.3% at league of legends but it was hard for me to think of myself as good because i was acutely aware of every single mistake i made and i knew i had literally 0% chance against the best players, plus whenever i watched any lower-ranked player every single mistake they made was so obvious so it was easy to think to myself they don't really "count" if that makes sense, i know you're better at tf2 than i was at league so maybe you went through the same thing and have a similar mindset where you understand how the objective "top 5%" are so much ridiculously worse than the best and therefore being merely "definitively above average" is essentially worthless
ultimately it ties back to the nebulous definition of good, maybe for whatever reason you don't want to say you're good at anything but maybe you could try thinking about it more precisely, instead of "i'm good at english" it could be something like "i'm better at communicating in english than many esls" (i'd say "most" or even "virtually all" but you can say "many"), the "good" statement is arguable but the second is simply a factual observation
