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Cuckolding, watching your partner have sex with someone else, is a popular kink in the US, but not Europe.
A sexual-fantasy researcher said the 400 people they interviewed in Belgium and the Netherlands didn't bring up cuckolding at all.
That's likely because gender roles are more egalitarian and non-monogamy is more accepted in Europe, making cuckolding less taboo.
Americans are often considered sexual prudes compared to their typically more uninhibited European counterparts. But there's one kink that Americans seem to enjoy much more than those overseas: cuckolding, where one partner watches while their partner has sex with another person.
On a recent episode of the podcast "Sex and Psychology," hosted by the Kinsey Institute sex researcher Justin Lehmiller, Mariëlle de Goede shared findings from her sexual-fantasy research in the Netherlands and Belgium. It involved conducting 400 interviews about people's sexual fantasies between 2018 and 2021.
When de Goede cross-referenced her European findings with previous research of Lehmiller's on Americans' fantasies, she found that most kinks, like submission, domination, and exhibitionism, were a "perfect match" between the regions. But when it came to cuckolding, the kink, which is different than a threesome, didn't come up at all in de Goede's European interviews, she told Lehmiller.
This is likely because the idea of sexually sharing your partner with someone else isn't considered taboo in Europe, but it is in the US. "The forbidden is incredibly arousing to most people," de Goede said.
