>>12195277Rarely do we get to decide the terms of a situation. The only thing totally and 100% within our control is how we respond to the situation.
Focus on the response.
Ps I’m not saying forget your kids till they’re old enough to be with you. If the opportunity to turn things around presents itself by all means take it.
But don’t resign yourself. Work all the harder so that when opportunity presents itself you are ready to take full advantage of it.
If it never happens and you have to wait x amount of years.
Then so be it, strive to be the best male figure in their life anyway.
This might not sound like welcome advice. But don’t badmouth your ex-wife to your kids. Focus on the good. Don’t shield them from her mistakes, but don’t put her on blast and come across as some salty crazy guy (because that is exactly what she wants them to think about you).
It’s better for you mentally and your kids developmentally even as adults if you focus on the good times you had with her or ask them about some good times they had with mom and how you wish you could have been there.
Something made your wife the way she is.
Your kids are apart you and apart of her, literally.
Don’t let them think they are driven by fate to end up in your situation.
Anyway good luck bro.
