>>16358779How often do you even get to use your education/hobbies/skills/etc in courtship? Seems to me like anything that isn't your looks is a waste simply because there's nowhere to show it off. Like I was having a conversation with a friend in a bar; mid-level intellectual conversation we'll say. It was pretty rare, I don't normally get to talk like that with anybody and especially not in public, but we just landed on a topic and got to talking. Stayed respectful, made points and counterpoints, etc.
And there were some girls at the bar nearby, all looking at their phones, not talking much, etc, and I think eavesdropping. I'd put them out of mind, no way anything was happening there, but as soon as we left they followed us out and wanted to get involved with us. It was like fucking magic. I think what happened is that we displayed competence in the conversation, or at least seemed to display enough competence to get them interested. But my problem was, no matter how much strength I have in that area, when am I going to have a chance to show it again? That kind of thing might happen twice a year if I'm lucky. It's never going to happen on a swipe dating app, it's never going to happen on any online service, it'll have difficulty happening even in a bar, if I don't have a speaking partner or one that isn't of sufficient quality to give me a chance to perform.
Similar for you. When do you get a chance to show your skills or show your education to young women that you might be willing to bone? Probably never, right? Even if there is a place to show your skills, young women probably don't show up to it. If you start talking about computer science, if you even get to talk to them, they tune out.
Looks on the other hand is perfect, because you can display your whole look in a picture on a swipe dating app. If you don't have looks, you just can't filter through most of the methods available.
