>>11878731>solve anythingI don't want to solve anything unless she asks for that
what I want is a progressive stance; cheering her on is a common mistake, you lose yourself in the moment and get high from the cheers when you actually need to focus on getting over whatever obstacle you come about
as I see it the support you mention serves as nothing but a coping mechanism, nothing useful comes from it; from my point of view we can try to pass the hurdle together but we HAVE TO pass it- not just talk how everything is going to be alright, being optimistic is a scam, being realistic is the only way you'll move from where you are now up and front
if we don't move we'll just bask in misery and take solace in nothing other than the fact that we are both miserable... and even that gets dull after a while
>not my problembut it gdnuinely is not my problem, I can help her go through with it but it doesn't suddenly make it my problem, it will never be my problem and the same kind of hopeless romantics that try to convince you otherwise are being dumb idiots
you can't shift problems from one person to the other without produxung damage
>her needsdid you not read anything in the contract; the contract clearly sets me in a lesser spot where she gets more and I get less in exchange she doesn't get the attention in public
I mean who gives a shit if people don't see affection in public, is this something that really matters to humans I then don't want to be affiliated with humans
>common courtesybut it's unnecessary standard that just leads to paranoia and destructive behaviour, if they can't face the truth because they have inferiority complex they shouldn't be in a relationshio- unlike in war where you have to kill people you don't have to be in a relationship if you'll always be like "I'm not good enough"
