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My wife can go out whenever she wants because she established a pattern of never trying to leave me out of it. We lived together downtown for years, going to bars together, wandering off with other friends, meeting up during the night, never going off the radar, always going home together. In the years since not once has she ever asked to have a girls' night out. After we had a kid we went out separately, and because this started with me going out alone while she was pregnant and she never gave me trouble about it, I generally return the favor. But when she does go out it is with work friends and she almost always comes home before I ask her to.
If sounds like I'm bragging but I don't actually have that great a marriage. I'm just saying that couples give each other freedom over time as they build trust between them. It is not cool to try and push the envelope unnecessarily or to try and spend time apart for no reason. Especially not for a young woman. Whoever she is, wherever she is, there is ALWAYS going to be a man in the room who wants to fuck her, and she knows this. The only justification for this is if you are overbearing and clingy, or in other ways insufferable to go out with. When you go out together do so as separate entities who are teammates. Mingle with friends, wander off, touch base, make new friends, touch base, hang out a bit, introduce each other to people, wander around some more.
This also goes for friends who go out together. Girls need to keep a closer eye on each other at a club, but something about the bottle service rubs me the wrong way here.