>>21358352This but men too. I'm 34 (marriage to BPD psycho stole 7 years of my life), and it's heartbreaking knowing that, as you say, I'll need to first find a partner (no prospects, no prospects of finding prospects, zero likes let alone matches on apps so stopped trying long ago), then even if they're the right one (at least a year out, if not more, so then I'm 35), be with them for at least a few years (then I'm 38-40), then have kids (might take a year or two, now I'm at least 40), so when my kids are teenagers I'll literally be in my 50s. Pretty fucking grim.
I honestly think the biggest mistake was mandatory sexual awareness training in middle and high school. Anyone with an attention span was freaked out by that scare propaganda, but that's the ideal time to have kids: relationships mainly governed by parents and schooling (similar social status, wealth, etc.), parents around to help with transition to parenthood, and you have a whole freaking life to spend with your offspring. Now it's over, I'm not "dating" at fucking 34, that's toddler shit. If I meet a woman who's not a coworker or family member (grim), and she expresses overt interest (I'm not reading fucking "signs", that's also toddler narcissist shit), my "pickup line" will be
>How many kids do you want?Her answer will determine whether there's anything worth pursuing. Ideal answer is 3-5 like me, in which case we're immediately on the same page, assuming I'm not getting scammed again (the BPD ex said the same). If she spills her spaghetti that's also fine, depending on how she does it, it's a rough question and I don't expect nerves of steel. If she flips out, or gives a range that includes 1, it's fucking over, because it's trivially easy to transition from 1-3, to 1, to
>what about a dog?hate hate hate hate hate
