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He turned extremely angry. Let me be clear; I’ve known this man for 2 years. He’s never even cursed when he hits his foot on the bed, so this was completely out of character. He said if “all I wanted to do was whore around, then I should’ve told him a long time ago so he wouldn’t waste his time with me” and a bunch of other horrible things that makes me sad to repeat :(. He told me we were over and to never speak to him again, and then he blocked me on everything. He also told ALL of our mutual friends that “I wanted to be a hoe and fuck my old, creepy co-worker a day after we broke up and that I’m a raging bitch”. My mutual friends all sided with him and nobody wanted to hear that I was just lonely and needed someone, nor would anyone acknowledge that we were broken up at that point and I didn’t have any obligation to him.
My friends’ reactions’ hurt; I lost many of them and everyone’s bullying me. I feel horrendous about the entire thing, but I still don’t see how I was in the wrong. HE broke up with ME, and in my mind, we were done. AITA for sleeping with another person?
A lot of people are asking me how I felt "ready" for this new guy but not my boyfriend:
It's different though! I loved my ex, truly. But I just never felt "ready" throughout our relationship. I didn't want to rush and regret it immensely
After we broke up, I just felt so shitty about myself and thought I was the ugliest person on Earth and my coworker made me feel so beautiful. I realized that "saving" my virginity is why I lost the man I loved, so I thought "fuck it" and did it. I can understand him being hurt, but he doesn't have a claim on my body.
I understand him being hurt/betrayed, but I would think the appropriate response is to talk each other maturely and get past this hurdle because that's what someone who claims they love you does. Not just calling you a whore and spread rumors to your friends.
