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Also this. Any of us can get caught in a brain loop of hating. Time and again, I find myself getting rejected socially if I don't hate. If I come into a social group, and they need to hate in order to give themselves a focal point to stabilise their minds. Divorced women who hate men "all men are bad, hate, hate, hate". Oh, OK. Divorced men who hate women "all women are bad, hate, hate, hate". Oh, OK. And if I don't hate, or look for a bigger picture, then I am instantly expelled. And the list goes on. I often wonder why there are so many social groups that require a scapegoat for their mental survival. I remember socially experiencing people who are into Holocaust denial. One can tell when people have been mistreated badly, sometimes heinously by their parents, and arrive in adult life demoralised and defeated. Add to the mix many systemic problems. I wish I could sit here and say "these people are the good ones, and those people over there are the bad ones". I can say that simplistic solutions don't really work, and try make a space for the complexity of life, and punishing a scapegoat just makes a person feel better temporarily. It's like those parents who abuse their children, the self-righteousness "justice will be done, and the guilty will be punished". Oh, OK. People who are in psychological pain need to lash out and punish those around them. I think that children get it the worst. There are no simple answers.
