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What we had thrived so beautifully not because of our similar hobbies, interests, political background etc. things between us could have been a horrible awful experience despite all of that. The reason it thrived was because of total honesty, transparency, putting our hearts on our sleeves and never telling each other comfortable lies…. We spent 24/7 just asking each other “what are you thinking” and refusing to let it go until the other person shared thoughts that 99.9% of the time would have been left unsaid.
Relationships fail when lies begin and things are left unsaid.
While I’ve violated a thousand of my own values and principles and take the brunt of the blame for all of this, I know you’ve violated at least a few of your own promises as well…. Like allowing your polyamory to become romantic and beyond what you and Melina had agreed on.
While she may fail in some regards with supporting your work and communication, has she violated boundaries that dire? Was it really wrong of her to be reaching out and stressing about where you were and what you were doing when you were in fact violating boundaries you both had set?
I feel like things were kind of put on her for contacting you so much when we were together, like it was her fault for not giving you your freedom…. And I know that’s something you agreed on - but perhaps her reactions were because she knew somewhere deep down that it wasn’t just a regular polyamorous get together but that she was losing you…. And her violating your boundaries was in response to her own boundaries being violated.
