>>16472107>if it's too latemaybe, personally i believe it's never too late for someone to change their perspective, i do think it gets more difficult the longer they spend in a particular mindset but i think it's still possible to change, the way of getting the change to occur is the issue though, like you mentioned i don't think you can just tell them they can, but i think if things click and they figure it out for themselves, they can change, maybe you were just describing how it tends to play out, in which case i fully agree, it's rare for anyone to ever dramatically change after they've been a certain way for so long
>it comes off as cheesy and uppity ... and that obviously ends up in them ignoring the advice, figuring that they know themselves better.very true, a key part of the studies was the fact that they tested on young kids who were still impressionable and don't really have a strong idea who they are yet and trust the praise and feedback that the researchers give, basically letting it mold them, and yea in my experience in america they don't really do a great job of instilling it here either, it's just the cliche triteness you described, i haven't dived deep into it either but it was just a really compelling study, i can never forget it
>>16472188>I've seen more than a couple cases where doing the literal opposite has worked in getting some people to grow. By telling them that they can't. well it's not necessarily the opposite, in the study they didn't explicitly tell the kids they're capable of anything, they just said "you mustve worked really hard!" and the kids built their identity around the implications on their own, but yea what you described can definitely be really motivating too, makes me think about if saying somethings impossible, there's the famous quote that goes like "if a highly-esteemed elderly scientist tells you somethings possible hes almost certainly right, if he tells you somethings impossible hes almost certainly wrong"
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