>>12654964It isn‘t even about him learning anything. It‘s about catching people where they currently are at. If i wanted him to change, how would that be loving? Because it is inherently saying that however you are rn is not good enough. To try harder. To pull yourself together. To be more functional. And yes, that has it‘s place. But telling someone that it is ok to not be sane and to not be functional every now and then can be extremely healing. He has nothing to hide from me. I‘ve seen those pictures and it doesn‘t make me be disgusted with him or want to be mean to him. Why would i? What would i even gain from it? So now that he has made himself vulnerable like that, there‘s nothing left to keep hidden away. Yes that is a scary place to be in but it is also a sign of at least still having some soul left. He‘s still here talking to people because he doesn‘t want to be left alone. And the fact he comes back always is pretty much prove that there is not much connection to be found in his life otherwise. Which is sad but true for many people. The only way he know how to get people to pay attention to him is by acting outrageously. It hurts to watch because nobody just acts like that for shits and giggles. It‘s alway because nothing else has ever worked. And it would be easy to ridicule people for acting out because it is so obviously unhealthy. But making fun of people for having to act out to get someone to give you the time of day should not be something you do. That‘s just mean.
Yes i do really believe it. And i hope you can believe it too one day.
