>>9698226life just isn't this hard for most people. they don't think about these things too much and just go to work and get drunk at the weekend, or stay in and watch tv/game.
The people that think deeply about these sorts of things are 1% of the population. And not even talking about IQ here, plenty of high IQ people just focus on their work and never think much about these things either.
Your escape plan is, since you are trapped, your own mind. Escape the trappings of your mind focusing on these things and not focusing on things that keep you in a healthier state of mind so you dont Sudoku yourself.
Additionally your parents have a large role in the burnt our feelings. If they don't take proper care of your emotions in the first 2 years of your life properly, you can go on to develop emotional, psychological and social pathology because of failures to integrated into social patterns in schools due to your mind being different from others due to neglect or abuse.
Sometimes two people born both with equally bad parents can have radically different outcomes. If one baby has dna to be more sensitive, he'll have a much harder time in life than the other baby born with less sensitive dna (psychological outcome when speaking of senstivitiy).
This then snowballs as everyone else gets ahead in their social/emotional growth and development while you try and keep up being years behind in some cases due to emotional issues.
In these cases you have literally done nothing wrong and life has dealt you a bad hand, and as an adult you realise what just happened to you. You see a 5 year old, a 10 year old and even a 16 year old and how young, vulnerable and sensitive they are, and what you or others went through at that sort of age is just horrific. You end up with huge amounts of anger and resentment, a stress destroyed nervous system and constant emotional pain.
Others can see your life as amazing, perspective from a mentally healthy person.