>>10122693Because I found a good woman, and you can too if you follow a few ground rules to weed out the bad women.
Obviously, the first date is the first level for testing. I took my future wife to see a movie (It was Gladiator back in 2000) and then to a pub for dinner. Always go to a movie or a show BEFORE dinner so you have something to talk about during dinner, and so you can gauge her views on something you have both experienced together - get a feel for her depth. And DO NOT go any higher than modest for food and drinks. You don't even know if you like this woman yet, so hold back and see if she can just enjoy your company.
Also, if she offers sex before the third date, just end it. Fuck her and end it if you like, but end it.
Second date is where I pulled out all the stops for her. The first date taught me that she could have a good time with me and a pub chicken parmigiana, so now I knew that I didn't have to sway her with money and could just do it at my pleasure. THIS is the date where the man plays his part to demonstrate financial stability. I dressed up and took her to the most expensive restaurant in town, had a five course meal with champagne and danced until the restaurant closed. Of course she loved it, but I still remembered she was happy in a pub.
Again, no sex. Not yet.
Now, the third date is where she plays her part to show off what she can bring to the table. She invited me to her home for Sunday dinner with her family (she was still living at home at 18). She cooked and served dinner herself and showed how she played hostess. I paid special attention to her mother because you're probably looking into the future. My wife and her mother are a bit on the plain side, but they are both thin and the mother was ageing really well, and now twenty years later so is my wife.
By the third date, depending on your beliefs, I think intimacy is permissible. Obviously we couldn't because her family was home - we were home alone on the 4th date.
