Let's be real here -- most of us aren't alpha males, we're average dudes. We're not in the top 20%, which as studies have shown, women tend to only pursue men in the top 20% by qualities of wealth or physical attractiveness. And maybe you can fake alpha for a time, but it will never endure because it all comes down to genes (with corresponding conditioning) and wealth, both of which you have limited control over.

In 2021 America, if you're a 7/10 in looks, with a stable job, the best woman you can muster is a 300 lb land whale who never stops bitching. The rest of the women are committing themselves entirely to fucking the top 20% of men.

The institution of marriage was created for us average guys. We need reliable access to not just pussy, but emotional intimacy and the feeling of belonging in a family of our own. Marriage helps enforce a 1-to-1 correlation between men and women, meaning women won't just congregate at the top 20% of men, else they be slut shamed and lose social standing.

With marriage, the emphasis on suitability of a male shifts from not absolute wealth and attractiveness, but long-term suitability. Emphasis is directed towards a stable career that can provide for a family, even if it's not a particularly great one.

We can delude ourselves -- we like to think of ourselves as alpha males and lie on the internet bragging that we bring in mad pussy and all the other users are cucks, but let's be real, half of us are NEETs in their mother's basements and most of the other half are very average dudes in most regards and dissatisfied. That's why we pursue the red pill -- it gives us promise and hope to have our physical and emotional needs met in a post-Tinder world, but the fact is that for some of us to succeed in this world, most must fail. It's not zero-sum.

I'm tired of that. I want stability with honest effort, not an endless struggle to overcome my ass burgers and average genetic qualities.