So I've been married for a couple of years and have an 18 month old child with my wife. As the title suggests, it's not going well. For the sake of brevity, I'll say only that she's been extremely short tempered as of late, which culminates in her lobbing insults and profanities at me (e.g. telling me that she hopes I die, calling me an asshole, prick, etc.). This is with very, very little provocation, mind you. It's often because I failed to timely complete some household chore that she requested I complete at once.

Normally, someone like this would've been out on the street a long time ago. But I don't have that luxury because I have the kid's interest to worry about. So a couple of nights ago I finally blew up and aired my grievances. I'd tried to do this in the past through civil discourse, but she totally stonewalled and ignored me. So obviously this was going to boil over. I didn't get violent or anything, but I told her, basically, that she needed to leave the house at once and that she wasn't taking the baby wit her. To my surprise, she obliged.

Now after a couple of days of thought and discussions with her, we're grudgingly considering marriage counseling. She'd demanded this many times in the past, but I always dismissed it as a waste of time and money. This was mostly because I didn't think counseling would somehow make her stop insulting me, i.e., marriage too broken to fix. But, we're at the end of our rope here, so I finally capitulated and agreed to give it a shot. Does /bant/ have any experience with counseling and, if so, what is that experience?