>>12598590Ah shit, that sound really rough. I‘m sorry you had to experience this.
I know a bit about how it must have felt, i grew up in an physically and emotionally abusive household with a dad that used alcohol and other drugs myself and i also was the oldest sibling.
Ok, so now to what you can do to be able to move on from a childhood like that and live your life as a healthy adult at some point.
I‘ll try to briefly explain what happens to a kids brain and heart growing up like that and why it is actually a very intelligent self protection instinct and how to move on from it now that those mechanisms aren‘t helping you anymore and are just standing in your way.
The younger a child is, the more it depends on his parents for survival. The baby brain still operates on the idea that if it isn‘t in close proximity, even body contact, with an adult, it‘s life is in danger. So whenever a baby isn‘t taken care of, even if it is totally socially acceptable today(like letting a baby cry it out when put into a crib in a room away from feeling, hearing, smelling and seeing any adults or breastfeeding it on a schedule instead of whenever the baby is hungry. Which is destructive because it teaches the child that it‘ needs are not reliably met in this world, since a schedule can never accommodate for things like a hot day that leaves a baby thirstier than the day before or a growth spurt that would need more nutrients than a week ago), scares a baby as much as being confronted with certain death. So every single situation like that is traumatizing for the tiny brain and heart. So if a baby has absent parents that deal with their own issues, like being alcoholics, a baby‘s needs are NEVER reliably met, which already leads to a feeling of being unloved, unworthy of being taken care of, that this world is a scary and hostile place, and so on.
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