>>12655291At this point it sounds like we're talking about these things in the general sense, so what I will say now is not about Yonkers personaly.
>Because it is inherently saying that however you are rn is not good enough. To try harder. To pull yourself together. To be more functional.It does sound cruel, but I believe that is the most helpful advice one can give. Because be it the internet or society at large, most people won't accept the way you are, and that will lead to more isolation and more suffering, even if you are the type who doesn't care much about others' opinions. The vast majority of people don't wish to be lonely, do they?
>He has nothing to hide from me. I‘ve seen those pictures and it doesn‘t make me be disgusted with him or want to be mean to him.But it doesn't make you respect him either, does it? Making yourself vulnerable in front of others is pure suicide. It makes people pity you, and that's akin to having them see you as weaker than them and beneath them. Sure, anonymity protects us here. But not him, since he plastered his face all over the board.
>The only way he know how to get people to pay attention to him is by acting outrageously. I agree. But it still is harmful. I know you will disagree, but I find that comforting people in such situations can reinforce their behaviour. Like a mother who protects her child even though she knows he is in the wrong. It'll only make him go back to her for that comfort, which also has the effect of validating his behaviour, at least subconsciously. But I am not convinced about it either, so I would certainly like you to address this point.
Now don't take any of this as me saying that you shouldn't keep doing what you are doing. I do think that it is very kind of you to do this. I wished to discuss your points because I found them interesting.
