>>14206428Attraction is an instinct meant to get healthy pairs to breed together.
Males are meant to master space, in nature this would literally mean an area with resources. A males mastery of that space would bring him good nutrition for a healthy body. He would be comfortable being the top dog owing that space and have confidence in himself. The females pick up on the subtle cues that come with that and feel attraction.
From what you are saying it sounds like a mental issue, maybe anxiety, I don't know. In the modern world the way that stands out most that demonstrates health is mental health. As long as you aren't completely batshit that basically comes down to having low anxiety/stress. Look at what confident guys naturally do vs what needy guys do and it shows the different extremes in comfort level. To reduce anxiety stress the best things you can do are physical exercise and breathing exercises to manipulate your nervous system.
As far as confidence goes you need to master space. In the modern world that can be a hobby, job, a sport, or maybe something else. Something you feel you are good at and can spend some time doing that improves your own self worth.
