>>16616895My mother is a borderline (and has bipolar and PTSD too), and I've had to deal with it my whole life. At first I just had to deal with my parents' divorce, but as I became older, it became more direct. She randomly blows up my phone with hateful messages, and then she gets terrified that I might leave her, so she pushes me away with shit like "this is it I won't contact you anymore." Every time, the only thing I can do is pretend like fucking nothing is wrong and say I love her. But it affects me, and I have very little support. She doesn't treat my brother like this, so he doesn't understand. My stepdad wants me to appease her because he has to deal with her reaction to my response to her episodes. Bringing up my mom at my dad and stepmom's house has always been taboo and makes things even more awkward (I've always felt tense and awkward around them). And the BPD has always been the fucking be-all-end-all of excuses. Oh well she has BPD so just suck it up! It was an episode! She doesn't remember! You wouldn't leave her, would you? That's literally what she's scared of. The fear of me leaving her is what causes her to double down on the crazy fucking messages.
