>>16752114>Having shitty parents doesn't excuse your own shitty behaviorYou're right, but i think that it does move you a tier down, from being inherently evil (say, some 6 year old kid from a normal family that goes around beheading stray cats or something) to unintentionally evil. if that means anything to you
>She makes no effort to improve at all you have to realise that this is like 95% of people. most people will go to the grave not having any self-reflective thoughts, being a slave to their own trauma and childhood experiences for their entire life (i like to think that this is what people really meant by that "NPC" meme that was going around a few years ago, but i digress). it's hard for me to explain why without sounding like some elitist, but i guess people just don't talk about these things, as important as it is? it is kinda boring i guess
it's best to stop putting a face to this shitty behaviour, just view it as some evil force that has plagued your family for generations. if you ever get a chance to talk to your mother like im talking to you now (which probably won't be soon, i understand this is boring and not really something you talk about with people), not out of rage/spite but an intervention, please do. dont be afraid to use all of the information you know about her shitty childhood and bring it up, the stronger the mindfuck the more likely she is to realise why she acts certain ways
for the short term, i say keep your head down, tolerate your mother (you can start by simply refusing to give into her aggression and don't try to one-up her if she tries to start shit with you, there is no point and there are no winners) and focus on getting your shit together. because if you don't stop this, you too will be a horrendous parent who will hurt your children, and you will become unintentionally become like your mother is now, just like how she unintentionally became the way her parents were, etc
