The main appeal of the femdom fantasy is that the man doesn't have to work for anything. If the man is submissive then he doesn't have to worry about being rejected by the woman for having a weird fetish because she is making the rules and taking all of the risks. The fantasy usually has a woman coming after a man, she initiates everything, and then the man simply has to accept it. He doesn't even have to work hard at having sex. The entire relationship falls into his lap and all he has to do is say yes over and over again.