Chad can play videogames all day long, rot in his mom's basement, do drugs, be asocial or retarded and it still won't prevent him from getting laid regularly with different girls. Meanwhile you can become rich, athletic, educated, learn several useful skills, have several hobbies, gain status and attract gold diggers and single moms at best after they had their fun in their youth. If you need to put such effort just to attract a girl or start your first relationship then it's simply not worth it, you can't force girls to be attracted to you. It's a sign of desperation and insecurity and girls can sense it and avoid you like a plague or at worst use you for you resources.