>>18309955okay I've figured out the armor problem:
Okay so
1. I leave all of my stuff (armor, inventory, weapons, etcetera) at the underforge with aela
2. I give her a good werewolf fucking as a goodbye gift before leaving whiterun through the underforge tunnel
3. when returning back I wear someone else's armor that I've previously mauled. therefore I blend in when walking through whiterun gates and am not nakederino