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Anonymous ID:civEI+T8 Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:40:36 No.18363363 View View Reply Original Report

Quoted By: >>18363368 >>18363392 >>18363409 >>18363494 >>18364083 >>18365974

On my first date I always tell them this immediately this: "I don't want children. I don't want to be a parent, I don't want to adopt. Any pets are cool, I just don't want kids"

I have been doing this for 6 years now and never got a second date after.

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Anonymous ID:qn2UufCM Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:41:16 No.18363368 Report

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>>18363363
hey serbor how's it going

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:civEI+T8 Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:43:56 No.18363376 Report

Quoted By: >>18365101

I should note that 99% of women here want kids, because societal pressure and all. Even when I told this to my coworker he said "What are you retarded? How are you going to continue your legacy?"

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Anonymous ID:E84+skia Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:46:23 No.18363386 Report

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holy mother of onions

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Anonymous ID:W8v0Utda Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:48:09 No.18363392 Report

Quoted By: >>18363397

>>18363363
I’m sure that’s not the reason you don’t get a second date

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:civEI+T8 Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:49:10 No.18363397 Report

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>>18363392
Maybe. I dated fat chicks as well and even they want kids.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:BJr10VSr Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:51:41 No.18363409 Report

Quoted By: >>18363439

>>18363363
Saying this on a first date, you are giving off vibes of irresponsible hedonist (and thus you are less reliable and secure as a partner) or just creep who hates kids.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:civEI+T8 Thu 10 Aug 2023 10:58:00 No.18363439 Report

Quoted By: >>18363517

>>18363409
When am I supposed to say it? I think one of the key things is to be as honest as possible to get the best relationship. It's not in my intention to creep them out, I just want to get that out first because I don't want a situation where we are months into dating and she finds out I don't want kids then freaks out and leaves in the worst possible way

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Anonymous ID:nmU/PDui Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:11:41 No.18363494 Report

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>>18363363
people who hate children cannot be trusted.
that is what you are broadcasting to people you say that to. you value animals over children, you cant tolerate your own species. thats what that sounds like.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:BJr10VSr Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:14:43 No.18363517 Report

Quoted By: >>18364040

>>18363439
It's just that you seem to be rather intense about this. It makes people think "Why is he SO against kids?".
>when
Just don't be so intense about it, drop the fact lightly when the moment will be right. It will still be a deal breaker for a lot of people, mind you, just less chance to creep out those who (at least currently because she can change her opinion after some time ofc) don't want kids.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:civEI+T8 Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:22:29 No.18364040 Report

Quoted By: >>18364061 >>18364125

>>18363517
One of my dates did ask me that "Why am I against having children?" to which I said I don't want to become a bad parent and raise children in a wrong way and I would rather spend time for myself and other around me. She then got up and wished me luck in finding the right person and left.

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Anonymous ID:nmU/PDui Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:28:38 No.18364061 Report

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>>18364040
see? she doesnt trust you now. that comes off as self doubt laced with a little conceition

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Anonymous ID:OSTlntYJ Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:33:02 No.18364083 Report

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>>18363363
the only girl i dated didnt want kids so i broke up with her.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:BJr10VSr Thu 10 Aug 2023 11:42:08 No.18364125 Report

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>>18364040
Don't want to become a bad parent and raise children in the wrong way
If she was into you, she would say something like "Oh no, but you seem so nice, anon, I am sure you will be a good parent." You probably fucked up on some deeper level.
>I would rather spend time for myself and other around me.
This stuff again makes you seem unreliable for long-term relationship. And it is kinda disconnected from the first part. It looks like you are just pulling straws with your arguments.
Also
>afraid that you will be a bad parent
>still OK with having a pet
Again, it seems that either you are negligent to your pet, or you just forged some explanation and lie.
Too many red flags.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:owSgdbpy Thu 10 Aug 2023 15:06:00 No.18365101 Report

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>>18363376
It's not just societal pressure, women are biologically programmed to want children in a way men aren't. Only met one or two women in my life who really don't want them, and at least one of them I'm pretty sure has medical issues that prevents her from conceiving and she's just coping.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:jmJrweaZ Thu 10 Aug 2023 17:38:27 No.18365974 Report

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>>18363363
What are you retarded? Why would you not want kids?

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