>>19612288>>459014651The problem is that women and men experience attraction and love in completely different ways, and both tend to project their way of thinking on the others, and it just doesn't work.
Men know very quickly, if not immediately, before talking at all, if a girl is someone he might marry, someone he'll put a little effort into fucking, someone he'll fuck if it's easy, and someone he's not interested in fucking. Women, on the other hand, divide men into three categories:
1. A small percentage of men who are so clearly attractive that they can show a picture of him to their friends and they will all agree that he's attractive
2. Men they have zero interest in, automatic ick
3. The rest, who they aren't quite sure about.
As men in category 1 are basically all movie stars, dating men is about figuring out how attracted to them they are. Depending on how the guy carries himself, what he says, all the things they find out, they'll either grow more and more attracted to him until they fantasize about marrying him, or they get the ick and realize he's gross. But the problem is when they apply this thinking to men. They match with a ton of guys, pick the most desirable 9/10, the one they're most confident they like, and think that since he's showing interest in them, that that interest can grow into a strong commitment and marriage over time, when actually the guy has long since ruled that out and is just trying to smash 7s. Then they repeat this again and again, and end up ranting that men can't commit.
