>>20513748As a man in the world we live in, you need to become outcome independent if you want to make it. There are way too many things that are completely out of your control. You need to focus on the things that you can control.
You shouldn't say "what can I do to get out of the friendzone or make this particular girl my girlfriend?" because that outcome depends on her and what she wants.
You should say "What can I do to make myself the kind of guy that girls actually want to be with?" because that is something that you do have completely control over.
Most of you faggots struggle with women because you really see them as nothing more than a means to an endgoal of getting laid or getting a girlfriend. You like to think of yourself as a good, "Nice Guy" but then seethe and explode in frustration when all of the superficial nice things you say and do for girls doesn't achieve your endgoal and you get friendzoned.
I know you aren't an actual good, kind, chivalrously, gentlemanly nice guy, because those kinds of guys wouldn't seethe or be upset about getting friendzoned by a girl. They may have been doing the same external things as you, but their motivations were completely different. They weren't just being nice to her as part of some stupid scheme to win her over and get into her panties, they were being nice to her because they actually like her and wanted to make her life better and her happier, or because doing nice things for other people is part of their own personal moral code.
Not only are your motivations for doing nice things for girls all wrong, you are being fake and pretending to be someone you are not.
What you are doing is no different than when girls approach guys and pretend to be flirty and interested in them, but really they are just trying to con them out of a free drink or whatever.
