Women are designed to be behind a male, and biologically aim to match the most important male in their life as a survival mechanism.
The key is being consistent, and being someone you would want to follow.
You can make her uncertain, you can make her unhappy, you can make her into a nitpicky harpy that destroys earth (though normally that takes more than one male).
If you are a harsh critic, she will grow towards being a harsh critic. If you are supportive, she will, eventually, grow more supportive.
But don't take one that is ruined already. You should seek out her Dad and see how he handles her, and their relationship. This will require at least a few days observation to where they are comfortable with each other around you. Try to examine how her father has learned to get her to better herself and her surroundings. There's a good chance he already knows exactly how to talk to get her mind to turn on.
If you can't find her father, you'll just have to stay steady and consistent as you actually want her. Don't lie, don't build a fake castle to be a man you're not. She'll pattern after that man, and when the real you shows up, she'll be disappointed.
That doesn't mean discussing a bad habit of flipping boogers on the wall when you're distracted and nervous on your first date. You're still allowed to speak of the positives of yourself and your goals for life.
I do suggest the 5 Love Languages for anyone looking to court.
If you treat yourself like a whore, you'll get a whore society around you, and that's hell and disintegration, into violence.
Also, a majority of women talk to think through and solve things. They can talk bout nothing, and you shouldn't feel that not having a solution to the problem she's presenting about other things in her life, is yours to solve. It's possible she's using it to test you (yes, they are insecure almost consistently), most of the time, again, it's just her processing where she feels safe. Offer Emotional Safe, Consistent.
