>>21706509Women do it too, it's a real phenomenon. The term is overused now, like so many others, but it has a real form. It's almost always how the mentally unstable initiate their relationships.
You don't understand what I'm talking about if you think 'niceguyism' looks like love bombing, being an assertive or mildly threatening figure isnt at odds with intense and excessive displays of passionate interest, obsessive focus, etc.
A BPD chick might seem shy or socially struggle, maybe even have a victim narrative for her life (appeals to captain-save-a-hoe). She may quickly become obsessed with you, wanting all of your free time, and uncomfortable when youre just spending time with the boys (I miss you so much, Im just anxious, why cant I be there, etc). A lonely or inexperienced guy might absolutely love all this attention, might love the experience of a woman pouring so much aggressive affection into him. She'll do little sweet things, she'll make/buy you stuff (even better if it somehow references her), she'll text you constantly. You're her whole world, she can't imagine being with anyone else ever, you're perfect, it's 3 months in and maybe she's talking babies. Maybe she seems 'innocent' because of her seeming lack of social connections with others, or her victim narrative. Only when youre completely wrapped up emotionally in this whirlwind does the more toxic and controlling, emotionally unstable, elements begin to shine. Why the fuck were you gone so long? You dont love me, Im going to kill myself...etc
I describe the female love bombing to crazy pattern because it may be more understandable for you, but the same thing happens in a male form to women.
