>>23584696to add to what scottish anon said, it might help to be more expressive in general, even though that can be scary
i think alot of people learn to act completely emotionally flat & walk on eggshells all the time, in order to be inoffensive
it can be offputting to people when that doesn't work, but when it DOES, people might just think you're not interested in them, or will be unable to get a read on you
just try not to restrict yourself, except when it's really necessary
coming off as shy is one thing, but coming off totally businesslike/disinterested is another
people (or atleast, people worth talking to) won't care too much if you're le quirky or shy, as long as they can tell you have good intentions in interactions, and they do as well
it's good to make people feel comfortable, especially if THEY'RE socially anxious as well, but just don't hinder yourself by being completely formal/unreadable all the time, otherwise people might keep you at arms length & be platonic even if that's not what you want
