I’m 22 year old man, still a virgin, and honestly, I feel like a total failure. I’ve tried talking about it with a few people, but it only ends with them making fun of me. It’s hard to express this to anyone because I am not close to many people in the first place and my best friends, who I’ve known for over a decade, say things like just go and fuck a cheap prostitute, you'll keep on scoring chicks after that.

What frustrates me the most is how these people and no one seems to understand that it’s not about just jumping into sex to "fix" everything. I have social anxiety and bad social skills, but that’s never something anyone wants to talk about. It’s like they think if I do something extreme, everything will just fall into place, but it doesn’t work like that.

I’ve been trying to improve myself. I’ve been putting in the work, reading self-help books, trying to become more confident and social but the results don’t come.

It’s frustrating because I feel stuck, and when I try to talk about it, I feel like people see me as a lesser person. No one really seems to care about what I’m going through, and sometimes I can’t help but feel like I’m just invisible to the world. I’ve never been in a relationship, and it’s honestly getting harder not to fall into that toxic “incel” mindset when it feels like the only people who understand me are people who think everyone else is the enemy. But I know that’s not the answer either.

It’s just hard to shake this feeling that no one takes me seriously or sees me as worthy of love. I’m just really tired of feeling like I’m trying my best and still falling short.