>>23916222I really don't appreciate being called a loser, and I'm not convinced you have "intense relationship issues"
I just think you're not currently able to be honest with yourself, or with your boyfriend
that's pretty common, especially amongst younger people, and older people stuck in unhappy relationships
you're well on the path to living a lie
but notice that what I wrote earlier focuses mainly on you, and how you perceive yourself, rather than saying anything criticising your relationship
so please don't imagine things, or put words into my mouth
I didn't bring up you having relationship issues
you did, just now
...do you happen to think you have relationship issues?
you can read what I wrote more carefully, and take the advice or don't
that's up to you
you describe that you're afraid, that you're embarrassed of yourself, that you can't talk openly with somebody who's supposed to be really close to you, and now you seem defensive
to me that checks out with the advice I'm giving you: get over your self-image and leave it behind; try to be more of an authentic person, especially with long-term romantic partners
you open up physically to him, but then hide your true, inner self away? to me that seems like you're not yet a whole, integrated person
you don't accept yourself, so you create a modulated, censored, fake version of you, and expect other people to accept it
well I don't accept it
it's phony, and you're lying to him by not showing him who and what you actually are
