We are who we are when nobody's watching. If you want to know who you really are, be on your own. Go somewhere on your own on holiday or whatever and that's who you are. If you're driving along and you throw the soda can out of the window of the car, that's who you really are. No one does that with kids in the back. Monster. It's interesting to kind of note that, you know, it's the difference between character and reputation. You know, you really know who you are.