https://youtube.com/shorts/6Yo_pZ05Vx4?si=dmAqHx8c6yUF65iSI just think this is bullshit to a degree
from what I've noticed about self help stuff is they always make a big deal about "self love" yet I don't think they ever really explain that in depth, it's just a token phrase they mutter about all the time, like some golden cherished "rule" and the number 1 excuse or reasoning why you have relationship problems or nobody really wants to go out with you.
How the fuck do you love yourself? like literally, you have to go out of your way to be "loving" to yourself all the time? like you're supposed to mimic and act out what an ideal romantic other would act and behave towards you but instead it's yourself being that way to you? can you imagine a regular person taking big sabbaticals and time outs just so that they can "love" themselves all the time by like buying themselves chocolates or something, or maybe like they get lavish messages all the time, but that's not quite loving yourself.
Basically, I think it's just bullshit like I said, it's one of the reasons why I am a leftist because I don't think you can love yourself that much. Like what the fuck, there's no point in relationships then? they don't even go there, why do people get into relationships in the first place, why do they even exist? why were they formed? surely many people go through their lives not really receiving love but I think a large degree of it is due to capitalism and also the reason why beliefs like that are peddled so incessantly, like a rule or law. I'm not saying you can't love yourself, I'm just saying you can't "love yourself" at all, but it's a human need to be loved by another person or others, to have close relations, friends and also to have a family. But in the modern world such things are skewed and twisted, yes.
But here's another thing, they always say "love yourself" but what about low self esteem, low self worth, such things are more clear and make more sense
