Don't you think it's about time you remind your husband that distracting himself from his personality disorder and past traumas isnt going to help him get better? I understand you barely speak english, but you should at least be able to understand how you're enabling his mental unwellness. No, you're not entirely accountable for him, but when you continually forgive a vindictive sex addict with BPD, rather than ask for a less toxic environment, you tell him that he doesn't have to change. How long was he unemployed for? How long did you make excuses for him? Is he even employed now? GET YOU FUCKING LIVES TOGETHER THIS INSTANT