>>4857956The key, I think, is to find a BPM / rhythym you're comfortable with and really enjoy hearing and to focus in that area foremost. It's how I learnt a lot so quickly, at least.
A band doesn't have to have more than two people, or even one, though. If you're making music with your bro and it's even somewhat organised, you're already technically 'a band'.
Good luck with your projects, man!