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Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:43:48 No.5856986 View View Reply Original Report

I think I need an advice or basically an idea of is there any better way to do this

I'm willing to do a greentext so you guys can understand the situation? I mean if you're willing to help

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:asv0YhoX Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:44:22 No.5856989 Report

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who quote

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:45:21 No.5856995 Report

Quoted By:

go on

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:1ntYMAgZ Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:47:23 No.5857013 Report

Quoted By:

Who are you quoting
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Anonymous

Anonymous ID:9cP/T81D Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:47:42 No.5857020 Report

Quoted By:

>>5856986
upvote

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:0CPcpBKo Mon 16 Jul 2018 14:56:27 No.5857080 Report

Quoted By: >>5857106

woah who are you quoting my fellow gamer

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:9cP/T81D Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:01:44 No.5857106 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857080
kek

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:20:31 No.5857240 Report

Quoted By: >>5857241 >>5857250 >>5857718

Okay guys sorry for the delay I was busy but anyway I'll start

This happen about two months ago or 3

>be 21
>met a girl, 18
>her parents are strict and stubborn (basically that's what she said) *didn't know about this until a certain time*
yada yada yada we both ended up liking each other so we ended up dating
>one day she was like "do u think we can go like somewhere in like" or "do you think we can have a future together?"
>me: Yes ofc
>basically she has a doubt that her parents will against this relationship due to them being strict and since I am not one of her kind (aka race/culture)
>so we had to call it off, was super devastated af
ffw like 3-4 days after that
>i tried to convince her to talk about it with her parents at least, see how they react, if the reaction is bad just be like "I'm joking" or somewhat
>she be like no I'm not going to say anything to my parents because I am scared of the outcome or how do they gonna react/say (she also have low confidence in herself)
>kept going on because I'm kind of a person who thinks every problem has its own solution
>reach to a point where we ended up arguing
>said to her that I've never been so disappointed in my life
>we didn't talk for a few day afterwards
>had a talk a few days after we stopped talking and basically i just have to give up on trying and accept that I don't want to lose her as a friend and she's wanting the same thing too
>so we both are now friends, still talking but not from A to Z
ffw to the past one week ago
>lately I've been acting cold towards her due to I still miss her, miss what we had and everything
>she now asks me if she has done something to make me act cold towards her, I didn't say anything.

Cont.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:+lon8hu0 Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:20:54 No.5857241 Report

Quoted By: >>5857242

>>5857240
Des

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:+lon8hu0 Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:21:10 No.5857242 Report

Quoted By: >>5857244

>>5857241
Pa

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:+lon8hu0 Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:21:26 No.5857244 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857242
Cito
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Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:22:08 No.5857250 Report

Quoted By: >>5857297

>>5857240

I had an idea of talking to her father behind her back on Facebook, but I am worried if her dad will punish her for what I'm doing. She didn't allow me to talk to her parent or any of her family member. But I wanna know from her father itself because I believe no matter how strict they are they will allow me to date with her. (her parent didn't know about me or knows that she is in love with someone)

How do I need to stop myself from being so butthurt/hurt over this or how do I get over of what we had, I legit need help or something. I still love her but I can't convince her to talk to her parent anymore, I can't talk/mention about it or I'll lose her as a friend for good.

Please help.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:30:51 No.5857297 Report

Quoted By: >>5857585

>>5857250
If you believe you can have a future with her but she doesn't and very hardly, it's not going to work

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:36:28 No.5857585 Report

Quoted By: >>5857604 >>5857655

>>5857297
She do believe that we can have a future together, its just her thoughts that her parent will against her dating, dating someone that's not her kind. I can say that she's scared of them since they're strict.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:38:53 No.5857604 Report

Quoted By: >>5857653

>>5857585
You have to convince her somehow so she says it to her parents

If it goes to far without nothing happened, diy

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:45:30 No.5857653 Report

Quoted By: >>5857676 >>5857680

>>5857604
I tried convinced her to talk to her parent as much as I can till we ended up having an argument because of me kept pushing/insisting her to do so. Now I can't even barely make anymore try with her because I am 99% sure I'll lose her as a friend if I mentioned this again or she won't talk to me for days, months idfk.

Like I have no more idea of how to convince her if she kept saying that she knows her parents won't allow it.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:PhFIZ/fk Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:46:08 No.5857655 Report

Quoted By: >>5857702

>>5857585
Isn't there a chance her parents will kill her if this comes out, hmm?

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:49:05 No.5857676 Report

Quoted By: >>5857688 >>5857702

>>5857653
Unless you have a fucking plan to escape with her from where you live to runaway from her parents, tell her something like this:
"Look, you want this relationship to work? Your parents have to know about this.
If you don't want to do it, I'll do it myself"
And you better actually do it + now try to convince their parents to stay with her and she has to help you with that

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:49:16 No.5857680 Report

Quoted By: >>5857702

>>5857653
Let go amigo, that’s my advice

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:50:41 No.5857688 Report

Quoted By: >>5857734 >>5857754

>>5857676
that is if your relationship is THAT important to both of you
If not, let it go, sorry

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:52:18 No.5857702 Report

Quoted By: >>5857713 >>5857716 >>5857764

>>5857655
>>5857680
>>5857676
Let me ask you three, in all honesty, should I just go talk to her dad om Facebook even though she told me she's not allowing me to talk to any of her family member and get answer from her father himself?

Or is this a dumb idea, suicide move?

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:53:23 No.5857713 Report

Quoted By: >>5857722

>>5857702
Not on facebook, face to face is what I'm talking about

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:53:53 No.5857716 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857702
Note that I am worried that her father might punish her for what I'm doing, but also chances are she's going to hate me forever.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:QstUCdW9 Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:53:58 No.5857718 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857240
die

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:54:35 No.5857722 Report

Quoted By: >>5857731

>>5857713
I can't even meet him in person

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:55:32 No.5857731 Report

Quoted By: >>5857739

>>5857722
Look, if you are not willing to do that, then it's not going to work

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:PhFIZ/fk Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:55:39 No.5857734 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857688
This.
If you do this, get her parents approval and later get cold feets and realize she's not all that you're a dicke.

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:56:42 No.5857739 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857731
I didn't tell you that she's from another country right? She's from UK.

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:58:45 No.5857754 Report

Quoted By: >>5857820

>>5857688
This girl means a lot to me and so different from any other girl I've dated, now I know all guys would say that but no really she is different, like I want her so bad, I am willing to make this work so much

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 15:59:53 No.5857764 Report

Quoted By: >>5857833

>>5857702
You’re going to get your friend and/or yourself hurt. Keep your dick in check and respect her famiy’s wishes until she is independent enough not to rely on them. Imo you are an asshole

Anonymous

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Anonymous ID:9cP/T81D Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:02:41 No.5857789 Report

Quoted By: >>5857833

If she means a lot to you stop posting here and do something about it, whatever risk there is just take it mate, better than not being with someone you love.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:05:54 No.5857820 Report

Quoted By: >>5857836

>>5857754
Look, if both of you can't do shit, then leave her and get over it

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:07:18 No.5857833 Report

Quoted By: >>5857846

>>5857764
I can tell I am being very demanding over her, but she never know if she never talked about it with her parents. I just don't want her to slipped away from my life, I'm being too overprotective and obsessive over her.

>>5857789
I ran out of idea, that's why I'm here, I wanna take the risk but there's some greater consequences that I am worried for her more than myself

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:07:59 No.5857836 Report

Quoted By: >>5857857

>>5857820
So is the best thing right now is to end our friendship as well?

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:09:10 No.5857846 Report

Quoted By: >>5857905

>>5857833
Clearly you are. How about you stop being a dick to her instead? That is hurting your relationship more than anything else

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:3GWTswIm Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:10:20 No.5857857 Report

Quoted By: >>5857930

>>5857836
If you and she are not willing to take the risks it takes in this type of situations to make the relationship be stronger and longer, then it simply is not going to fucking work,as simple as that
I already told you what you should do

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:12:42 No.5857871 Report

Quoted By: >>5857930 >>5857939

Fuck it, do as Pedro says. Cut it off. Fucking kids pissing me off with their shitty dramas

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:17:37 No.5857905 Report

Quoted By: >>5857939

>>5857846
I miss of what we both used to have and everything I was being butthurt or act childish over this shit, I want to be nice but I can't help it being cold towards her.

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:20:07 No.5857930 Report

Quoted By:

>>5857857
So basically I don't have to cut our friendship then, just come clean of why I act cold towards her lately? And hoping she will forgive me?

>>5857871
I can't stand this too, but fuck me I get myself into it.

Anonymous

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Anonymous ID:9cP/T81D Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:22:01 No.5857939 Report

Quoted By: >>5857984

>>5857871
this

>>5857905
Just fucking do something or never talk to her again faggot, you didn't need to post about this at all for the drama, you knew the choices you had before you made this post, pick a choice mate already

Senpai

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Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:26:11 No.5857984 Report

Quoted By: >>5857988

>>5857939
Fuck it fine, I'll do it, fucking bail out on this girl for good. Ain't gonna lie after we had to end it the convo just become stale since its basically same shit everyday and I got bored of it. But because I don't have too much people to talk on phone, I decide to just go with it till she bail out first.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:1qx90fvd Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:26:50 No.5857988 Report

Quoted By: >>5858002 >>5858054

>>5857984
See, she didn't mean that much for you after all.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:28:23 No.5858002 Report

Quoted By: >>5858035

>>5857988
Post that boipucci baby

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:1qx90fvd Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:32:51 No.5858035 Report

Quoted By: >>5858046

>>5858002
I rather not

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:34:17 No.5858046 Report

Quoted By: >>5858067

>>5858035
At least I tried

Senpai

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Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:35:23 No.5858054 Report

Quoted By: >>5858237

>>5857988
Its not that she didn't mean much to me at all, I just hate that we can't talk like we used to when we're dating, now its just normie talk and I hate it. I want us to talk about everything from PG rated to 18+ but it ain't happening if we both ain't dating or one of us not into it anymore.

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:1qx90fvd Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:37:00 No.5858067 Report

Quoted By: >>5858261

>>5858046
Why though?

Senpai

Senpai ID:amayvSmx Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:55:15 No.5858237 Report

Quoted By: >>5858261

>>5858054
Okay fuck it it's done now, now I need a fucking sip to get over this and a shit ton of emo song, and whatever the fuck that's on the table, thanks lads, now I can fucking scream as much as I want now, 10/10 would come back to /bant

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 16:58:50 No.5858261 Report

Quoted By: >>5858274

>>5858067
Just shitposting. Also why not? You the Swede who works in a hotel?
>>5858237
Glad we could help

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:1qx90fvd Mon 16 Jul 2018 17:00:23 No.5858274 Report

Quoted By: >>5858296

>>5858261
No, I'm another swede! ^-^

Anonymous

Anonymous ID:tbfgPzmh Mon 16 Jul 2018 17:02:31 No.5858296 Report

Quoted By: >>5858315

>>5858274
How many gay Swedes are there? Or do they shitpost as gays?

Anonymous

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Anonymous ID:1qx90fvd Mon 16 Jul 2018 17:04:59 No.5858315 Report

Quoted By:

>>5858296
I'm not gay though, and I don't know how many gay swedes there are! Besides myself I'm only familiar with aesthetics and that swede whom I have an old picture of.

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