Self driven meaning is a curse. You'll never be satisfied with your decided life. You'll find a flaw in it eventually. Then you'll look back in regret at all of the time you wasted. You'll reinvent yourself and then change your goals again. Then hope you don't die before you have to do it again. You'll never figure it out before you run out of time. You'll die as a work-in-progress.

Its better to just follow the stream of society. Let the collective decide what is right. Society might be wrong, but you'll have comfort in knowing that you'll be in good company wherever it may lead you.