>>7039638>>7039666You sir are a gentleman and a scholar.
Shame so few people are able to notice that. Love isn't only the burning passion as seen in romance stories, it can also be a learnt compassion, something you practice. As long as you are willing to try, you can learn to love anyone with enough time. That's why marriages "out of common sense" as opposed to those which are a result of two people in love are oftentimes more succesful in the longrun. That passionate love two people may feel isn't permanent, with time it may weaken until it's but a memory; it doesn't have to, but it usually will. Every "I don't love him/her anymore" comes down to that, people who say that just don't get what the life-long love is about. It's not about seeing your partner as a perfect person, one made just for you. It's more about learning who they really are, knowing their good and their bad traits, tolerating the fact that they are not perfect, seeing that they are only people afterall. That symbiotic relationship of two people willing to support each other through times good and bad.
Although of course there are instances in which that cannot work, we are all imperfect, but we shouldn't be blind on serious issues some may have.
You know, I'm not a big fan of the Church myself, but that's one of the things they really get. That's also why arranged marriages could (can?) actually work, despite us being told by multitude of fairy tales that they are evil and no true love may come out of them. I'm not saying that we should go back to those times, no, however we should reflect on our view of them, judge them justly instead of refusing to acknowledge what denies our romaticised worldview.
But my 2 cents. Pic rather unrelated.
