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He just lives day by day enabling her while at the same time trying to clean. It's a never ending cyclle. I felt bad a few times and went through months longs ordeals for about three years of going off and on trying to help them, getting super close to change. Then my grandpa getting cold feet Everytime and siding with her. I've at this point let her do her own thing, and stopped trying to help him. If he won't stick up for me and side with me why should I after multiple tries. He can't even build up the courage to tell her to get rid of a pile of chicken and dog feed bags (empty) she says she's gonna make into tot bags. We've had them for a year. I've cleaned out rooms just to have them be the exact same as they were before a week beforehand just with different stuff. Then she has the audacity to always come to me when I leave a cup outside, it's just how can you always be on someone else's shit and then go lay back down after telling them to clean two cups up while surrounding it is actual physical MOUNDS of garbage. I love my grandma and she is a great person, but it's starting to become really hard not to hate her. She's wasted my grandfather's money multiple times to the ground, shit with bills but for years insisted on being the one who did them. Took advantage of my Gramps and would leech money, tried to leave him and get me to leave as a kid even though all it was was us trying to get us to fix her hoarding problem. Whenever she's upset with me she goes to him to have him scold me like we aren't family. How do I not hate my grandma? I love her, she's my dearest grandma. But a part of me really hates her because I don't see the caring grandma I love but a woman who broke down and took advantage of a man tell they grew old to now where he's just a yes man.
