>>8343841>I can't behave manly among people. I can't help but think like "If I say this, I might hurt him" or "If I say this, people might think I'm clown who thinks himself to be leader">Also I don't like competitionIn a culture were reading the air means a lot, especially in workplace and school, it would be hard to get you're get your point across, but it is important to get your ideas across, the silent ones rarely get notice. still you should never speak for the sake of making noise, only put forth your ideas when they are relevant.
as for other people and competition, you're gonna hurt people no matter what you do, no matter where you go and what you do people will like and hate you for it, it's a part of life, just try not to piss off the wrong people; I've gotten a lot of blackend eyes that doing that.
>Also, I don't have confidence about chasing/approaching womenAlthough, I can talk to and pick up random stranger women on streets or in railway stations, when I think about approaching woman I know, I think like "maybe I will hurt her" or "I think I will make this wonderful woman unhappy". So I can't even talk to her but just evade her.
It's hard to talk to girl, honestly. from what I know from my experience with Japanese girls in not to be too forward, but to pick out queues in what they wear, small accessories and the such, this often gives you a glimpse into their personality and interests but it's not always accurate. more often than not the girls aren't grossed out by you talking them, they like any man like conversation, and hey, if you come off a little strange, not in a bad, it means you stand out from the other guys she's spoken to and she's more likely to remember you.
