>>9223277How do I figure? Come on. There's no way to mistake "I'd like a Banana Cream Pie for my Birthday!" for pumpkin pie. There's no banana in the name pumpkin pie; there's no cream in the name pumpkin pie.
This is a person who made darn sure to get the pie for the birthday, but to also make sure it wasn't the actual pie the person wanted. So why get anything at all then? Because it is passive/aggressive abuse. I know what I'm talking about here.
And the kicker is, if the recipient gets hurt, or mad, that they didn't get what they asked for, the giver turns it around and plays the victim.
"What are you getting so mad for? It's just a pie."
"I do so many other things nice for you."
"YOU should have written it down."
"YOU should have made sure I hear you."
"YOU should have said it in a way I understood."
And if you don't say anything, they still know you're hurt, because they know exactly what they did. And inside they are happy they hurt you. Parents who are pieces of shit and resent their children (for whatever sick, twisted, selfish reason) do this a lot, and they will never. ever. change.
You can't change your parents, but if this is a friend or "loved" one who did this to you, I strongly urge you ditch them. They will never be there for you when it counts the most. They might even stab you in the back.
OP, I'm really sorry this happened to you.
Anyone else who thinks it's not a big deal, it's because you're covering for your own misdeeds in this area. Shame on you.
